Eric from Scotland Asks about Relationships

Hi,

The last year I have been to a relationship that has totally turned up side down in my life. It's quite hard to explain everything that happended, but this person is really, really abusing me emotionally. And I'm desperat to find a way out of this. I am going to therapy as well, but also need more help to get back the control in my life.

The woman I talk is today a major part in me life. For a long while she was really, really obsessed with me, and during this period I made a lot of important changes in my life. Much of it was because I felt really secure and trusted her. Today I only think that she lived on "selling dreams", and I feel really scared that she might be a psychopat. Not sure. Today, she has really changed her focus on someone else. I don't think she needs me anymore. She doesn't seem to "care" more than in the mechanical way about me. Very cold and manipulative.

Since I really have problems today to trust anyone, I would like to know if there is any online self-help group. I would really need to get in touch with others in my life that might have been dealing with something like this.

"eric" from Scotland.

Uncle Block Replies

Your problem is a complex one that ordinarily could not be dealt with in an online self-help group. What you really need is intensive professional therapy. Given that you are already in therapy shows you have wisdom and initiative.

Professional help is not always easily available, especially in Scotland. You're procurement of the services of this therapist indicates you may already be well on the way to recovery.

Fortunately, you have come to the second best place for help. I have been counseling individuals with exactly the same problems as yours for several decades and my success rate is almost 100%.

One day I took my notepad computer with me for a drive. I wanted to listen to MP3's on my car stereo. I had the computer resting on top of the dashboard. As I came around a sharp bend in the road I almost hit this guy who looked like a lost member of the band Fog hat staggering down the middle of the lane in the opposite direction. Ordinarilly this would not have bothered me but since my computer was on the dash it could have been damaged in any collision with this guy.

Imagine if I would have hit the guy. He might have come flying through the windshield turning my computer totally up side down in my car just like the relationship that has totally turned up side down in your life. Keep in mind, the computer I talk is today a major part in me life.

For a long while my computer was really, really obsessed with me, and during this period I made a lot of important changes in my hard drive. Much of it was because I felt really secure and trusted her operating system. It's quite hard to explain everything that happended because the error messages don't make any sense, but this computer is really, really abusing me emotionally. Some of my friends tell me to switch to a Mac but I feel this would constitute a refusal on my part to face reality.

Today I only think that person who sold her to me lived on "selling dreams", and I feel really scared that he might be a psychopat. Not sure. Today, he has really changed his focus on someone else. I don't think he needs me anymore. He doesn't seem to "care" more than in the mechanical way about my computer. Very cold and manipulative.

How did I get around these problems? With sheer brute force and dedication. I sat down and said to myself,

"Since I really have problems today to trust anyone, I would like to know if there is any online self-help group. I would really need to get in touch with others in my life that might have been dealing with something like this."

.... but whenever I found a self-help group it did not help me at all because I really had problems to trust anyone so what was the fucking point of going to a self-help group full of lying, cheating bastards who I could not to trust?